There are different signs of violence in relationship. Your partner can put you down, humiliate you, or call you names. The partner can also drive recklessly simply to scare you and threaten you with threats of violence. Throwing things while angry as well hitting and kicking you are all aggressive signs of domestic violence.
The most important thing in a violent situation is remaining safe. If you decide to leave your relationship, good planning can save your life.
The Brewster Center recommends the following actions in during any scenes of violence:
Find the nearest exit.
Find the room that has a phone.
Visualize your escape route.
Have a packed bag ready.
Ask someone to call 911.
The Brewster Center recommends the following actions when you have finally decided to leave the relationship:
Open a savings account.
Immediately gather important documents such as birth certificates, Social Security cards, immigration documents and keys to a trusted and loyal friend.
Reach the destination where you believe is safe and sound.
Keep the Brewster Center helpline available with you at all times.
The Brewster Center recommends the following actions if you cannot leave and rather stay at your own residence:
Change the locks.
Discuss a safety plan with your children.
Communicate to the community especially your neighbors and land or that your abuser no longer lives with you.
The Brewster Center recommends the following action if you have an order of protection against the partner and the partner shows up:
Keep a copy of the order with you at all times.
Call the police if your abuser violates the order.
Have a secondary plan and an escape route if the police do not show up on time.
Communicate to the community especially your neighbors and land lord that you have an order of protection and to call 911 if the abuser comes on the property.